Life is a Lesson Learnt: 2016

2016 Taught Me That: 
I am incredibly strong
Friends don't always know best
But they do always have my best interests at heart
Being honest feels good
Friends can be found in the strangest places
Social media isn't life
Sex is best when you care 
Naps fix things
Giving compliments makes me feel good
Bad times don't last forever
It really doesn't matter what other people think 
Some friendships don't last 
Learning excites me
Sometimes you have to risk it
Dating is exhausting
The little things mean a lot
My mental health should always be a priority
Being myself is the best way to be

Revolución De Cuba Milton Keynes

I love cocktails. I love food. I love drinking cocktails while I'm eating food, and I can officially say, Revolución de Cuba does this pretty bloody well. A pina colada is always my drink of choice, in case you were wondering, I'm all about the tropical flavours, and the rum of course. 

Life lately: becoming me again

It's been a while. Over 6 months actually. I didn't plan to take a break from blogging, it just kind of happened, and I let it, because blogging is something I enjoy, and if I'm not enjoying it, I don't want to force myself to do it. I don't feel I owe an explanation to anyone who might be wondering, but I'd like to talk about what's been going on, because ultimately this blog is my space to talk about myself, and I'm going to do it. 

A Day at the Races: Outfit

So, if you've been following me and my blog for a while you'll know my weight has been a constant hurdle in my life. It has been up and down, and during my 2 years of blogging i've weighed the lowest I've ever been and the highest I've ever been. My body confidence has been pretty bad almost regardless of what size I am, but especially being back up to the biggest size I've ever been right now. 

Regardless of my weight and size, I'm trying to improve my body confidence and self esteem, and to remind myself that at this size I am still beautiful and sexy. Also that who I am as a person is still the same, and that is what makes me attractive. 

A Day at the Races: Al Shaqab Lockinge Day

Dating is...

I've been single for about 9 months now. Having my heart broken was hard, as it is on anyone I'm sure, but I'm doing ok. I've been dating, as you'll know from previous posts, and if you follow me on twitter where I post far too much about my life. 

In those 9 months i've liked someone, i've been hurt, i've been stood up, and invited on dates I've turned down. I've felt special and wanted, and I've felt used and rejected.

Lets Go To The Races Giveaway

Image provided by Newbury Racecourse

I'm off to the races! Being a blogger means I get invited to some very exciting events, and this is probably one of the most exciting things of 2016 for me. I am off to the Al Shaqab Lockinge Day at Newbury Racecourse!

The day is the "highlight of our Flat racing season featuring some of Europe’s finest thoroughbreds going head-to-head on an unmissable day of equine action."

To me it means a day of fun, some drinks, food, spending a little bit of money making a bet and cheering on a horse that will hopefully win me some money. With live music and events going on throughout the day its not just about the racing, and with hopefully a little bit of sunshine, it should be a pretty awesome day out. 

As the highlight of Newbury's Flat racing season its going to be a pretty exciting day, whether you're into horse racing or not! 

Image provided by Newbury Racecourse

I couldn't blog about such an awesome event without trying to sort something out for you guys. So not only do I have an exclusive discount code, I'll be giving away a pair of tickets for one lucky person to win. The event is on Saturday 14th May and is at the Newbury Racecourse. You can enter the giveaway below and make sure to read the terms and conditions at the bottom of this post. 

If you'd like to come along you can get yourself tickets to the day here, and use the unique code - FUN16 - for £5 off each ticket. 
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Terms & Conditions: Open to UK residents aged 18+. Your email address will be used for promotional purposes by the Company in question but will never be used by external third parties. Essays and Wine holds no responsibility for providing the prize, this is down to Zeal Buzz who are offering the tickets via this blog. Once the winner has been chosen their email will be passed to Zeal Buzz who will be responsible for arranging the prize. Winner will be announced by 1 May 2016, they will have 5 working days to respond before another winner is chosen. The giveaway ends on 24 April 2016. 
*I was provided with my tickets in exchange for blog posts before and after the raceday. The giveaway tickets are provided by Zeal Buzz . 

Spring Wishlist: Plus Size

Stone Kimono - Dorothy Perkins £22
Pussybow Shirt - ASOS Curve £30
Enya Flock Print Skater Dress - Boohoo Plus £25
Boho Paisley Print Playsuit - ASOS Curve £28
Onfire Long Sleeve Shirt - M and M Direct £7.39
Onfire Mid Wash Denim Jeggings - M and M Direct £16.99

Spring is officially here, finally! A new season always means new clothes, it's the perfect excuse to do some shopping. Although the shops have started selling bikinis and denim shorts it's still far too cold for that, so my Spring Wishlist is much more tailored to the current weather. 

I live in jeans all year round and although I already own far too many pairs, I'm always looking for more, I'd never thought to look for jeans on M and M Direct, but they have some really good deals, with some pairs for under £5. This pair from Onfire are just some standard jeans, I prefer the lighter mid wash denim for Spring as it brightens an outfit up a bit. This Onfire long sleeve shirt is also from M and M Direct and I love it! Perfect for Spring, and such a bargain. 

Kimonos are something I'm loving now I've gained weight. I'm not comfortable showing my arms, but cardigans can be too casual looking sometimes, and blazers too formal and hot. A kimono is lightweight and a bit smarter than a cardi, this stone coloured one from Dorothy Perkins is exactly what I've been looking for. The pussybow shirt from Asos isn't something I'd usually go for, but I was really drawn to it, I can see it either looking terrible on me, or actually really great. 

Going out in Winter usually means wearing black all the time, but now its Spring I want to bring a bit more colour into my wardrobe. I love the paisley print on this Asos playsuit, and I love that it has long sleeves. The Boohoo dress is the perfect in between for Winter and Spring, and I love the fit, skater style dresses always suit me best, so this would hopefully look good on me! 

I'd love to know your favourite places to shop for plus size clothes, or your go to Spring colours, mine are usually shades of blue or green. 

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If you enjoyed this post you might like to check out Holiday Style for Plus Size // Wishlist: Summer Sandals // Kimono Versatility: 3 Ways to Wear
*This post was written in collaboration with M and M Direct, however all thoughts and opinions are my own.

Lets Get Personal: Am I Happy?

Ironically, today is the International Day of Happiness, but, I don't think I'm very happy. 

I haven't said this out loud to anyone, although maybe my close friends have picked up on it, at the moment I'm not very happy. I feel low. I'm not depressed, I know the difference and I know I've felt worse than I do right now, but I'm still just not happy. 

This doesn't stem from anything in particular, in fact lots of things in my life make me very happy. I have a great job that allows me to do something I love, is a great step in my career and means working in a relaxed environment with some wonderful people. I laugh every day. I have great friends, who I can contact any time and I know they will be there for me, I have a loving family, and I have two kittens who I adore. 

But I can't shake this feeling, I can't get out of this overall mood that right now I'm not happy. The past two years have been a bit of a roller coaster for me, with anxiety, uni stresses, a relationship breaking down and then ending, moving home, no longer being close to a lot of my friends, starting a new job and coming off medication. 

It's been a lot, and some days I've felt like I couldn't cope, some weeks, even months were terrible, but overall I'm in a much better place now. I'm off medication, and on the whole, a lot less anxious. I'm coming to terms with the end of my first real relationship, and I'm getting used to working full time. But general happiness still feels just out of reach. 

I've been craving attention, validation and love from new people, when really I should be focusing on giving myself attention, validation and most importantly love. I need to remember to accept the love my friends and family have for me, that is just as important and as validating as love from a man. 

My mind has been busy, I've been distracting it. Really I need to give it time to slow down, to breathe, to find itself again. I need to balance myself, to be happy with myself and to find out what truly makes me happy. 

Am I happy? No, I don't think I am right now, but, I'm not unhappy. I'm stuck in the middle trying to work out who I am and what I want and where I want to be. Trying to decide what makes me happy, and trying to focus on things that don't rely on someone else to maintain my happiness. 

I'm taking a break. No more searching for someone to make me happy, no more feeling like my life isn't complete without someone to love. I am enough to make me happy. I just need to find out what it is that makes me happy. 

So, Happy International Day of Happiness! I truly hope you're happy today, and every day. I hope if like me, you're not happy right now, that you can find a way to happiness. I hope that if you're very unhappy, or struggling with depression or any other mood effecting illness, that you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, even if it is only a pinprick. I hope that you know this isn't a forever feeling, and that happiness is possible.  

Its time for me to start focusing on myself, and hopefully find happiness again.

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If you enjoyed this post you might like to check out Let's Get Personal: I've Been Struggling // My Photos of Happiness // Why I'm Happy Today

Shake It Like A Polaroid Picture

I'm a sucker for photos. I remember as a young teenager covering my wall with photos I'd had printed out of me and my friends. They can capture a memory or a feelings so perfectly, and transport you back to that time. 

The sad thing about taking photos nowadays is that they're digital and not physical. You can view them on a screen but you rarely get them printed out to see. So when Cheerz got in touch and asked if I'd like to print out some of my favourite photos I had to say yes. 

Cheerz wanted to make printing quick and easy but with fun high quality products. They offer a range of products which put a twist on your usual printed photos. From a Cheerz Box holding up to 35 polaroid style photos, to individual prints, magnets and photo albums. They even offer photobooth style strips.

I decided on a Cheerz Box featuring a bunch of my favourite photos. You might have seen I'm already loving these polaroid photos in my Desk Makeover post, where I created a display above my desk. I wanted to add to this and include some newer photos, as well as finding other spots to display pictures I love. 

The polaroids are really good quality, and unless the original image is low resolution they all came out really clear. The boxes themselves are really cute and small enough to easily store if you didn't want to display the photos but wanted to save them to look at in the future. 

The process for choosing the photos is really easy, you can choose from your phone or laptop, or sync with Facebook, Instagram or Dropbox. You then just click the photos you want and once you reach the limit you can review them, the site also alerts you if a photo is too low-res, and gives you the chance to crop it to the preferred area. You can even add a filter, change the box colour and add text. 

I was also lucky enough to receive another Cheerz product. The Little Square is a frame featuring four photos and is the perfect size. I decided it was a great way to show some of my favourite photos from my trip to Australia with my best friend a few years ago. 

The quality of the photos wasn't the best resolution, but because the square isn't too big it still looks good. I love that the frame is white, but you can choose between a few finishes, and its made of a lightweight wood so isn't hard to hang or display.

Overall I was really impressed with Cheerz, I think they offer a really great range of products at reasonable prices. They would make such lovely gifts, or are just a nice way to display some of your favourite snaps. 

I've even got a discount code for you, if you use EMMLUE you'll get £4 off your order! I'd definitely recommend checking them out. 

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If you enjoyed this post you might like to check out Desk Makeover Challenge // My Photos of Happiness
*Cheerz sent me these products to feature on my blog, however all thoughts and opinions are my own. 

Let's Talk: Body Positivity

Your body is your body. No matter your size, shape, height, race or ability it's all yours, and it's going to be the body you have for the rest of your life. Sure you can change certain aspects, you can loose and gain weight, you can emphasis certain aspects, cover others up, but at the end of the day its the same body you're standing in every day. 

So shouldn't we be embracing our bodies? Loving them because they do pretty amazing things, they give life, they run marathons, save lives, educate, empower and bring joy and comfort. Yet it seems like we're never happy with them. 

Simply Be wanted to try and do something to empower women and help them love their bodies. They recently got in touch and asked me and some other wonderful bloggers to talk about what we love about ourselves and our thoughts on body positivity.  

"My body isn’t exactly how I’d like it to look, but what I love most about it is that it is MY body! No one else looks like me, my body is totally unique to me and that is why I love it. I do also love my bum!

Everyone should love themselves and embrace their body because it’s uniquely theirs and that’s what makes it beautiful. You don’t have to be happy with every inch of your body to love yourself, you just have to treat yourself well and always be kind. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend then you shouldn’t say it to yourself!”

I'm a big body positivity advocate. I truly honestly believe every body is beautiful, I think happiness and confidence make the world of difference, and I think loving yourself is the key to being happy and confident in your body. 

The only problem is, I don't listen to myself. I can talk about body positivity and loving yourself until the cows come home, and I really believe it's important and I think everyone is gorgeous and beautiful and sexy in the body they're in right now. Except myself. 

I'm not going to sit here and say all this stuff without being honest with you. I don't believe it when its about my own body. No matter how much I try, I can't love my body, I can't look in the mirror and feel anything other than disgust. 

I know its wrong. I'd hate for my friends, or anyone, to feel about their bodies the way I do about mine. The strong confident adult woman inside me who knows my body does not define me, and wants to be happy and love myself no matter my size. 

I knows a large body can be sexy and beautiful because I see other plus size women and think all of them are sexy and beautiful, but I can't seem to translate that into seeing myself as sexy and beautiful. 

How do you change the thoughts of a lifetime? How do I not hate my body when I've been ashamed of it since I was less than 10 years old? How do I tell myself that my body is beautiful at any size, that its beautiful because of everything it has been through, because of all it will give me in years to come, because a 'thin' body isn't the only body that can be seen as sexy?

This probably isn't the body positivity post you expected, but its important for me to be honest, to show you that actually I'm struggling too. No matter how much I tell people they're gorgeous exactly as they are, I can't say it to myself. 

I want this to change, I want to be able to look in a mirror and accept that some areas of my body aren't exactly how I want them, but that does not stop me from being a beautiful sexy amazing person exactly as I am, perceived flaws and all. 

I just don't know how to do that. I don't know how to love myself, but I want to learn. 

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If you enjoyed this post you might like to check out I Should Love My Body // My Weight & Me: Part 2 // The Self Love Tag
*Simply Be gifted me some clothes in exchange for taking part in their campaign. All views are my own.

Winter Beauty Favourites

Winter is still hanging about but its definitely time for me to start embracing Spring, even if the weather isn't exactly cooperating! This season has been my first working full time and starting my days at 5:30am on weekdays, so I haven't had as much opportunity to 'play' with makeup, instead turning to quick and easy products. 

Nail products are always something I love in the winter, as the colours are really me, dark reds, blues and a bit of glitter! The Sprint Finish shade from Barry M is gorgeous and I love the formula. The Revlon Quick Dry Top Coat is a life saver for when I need my nails to dry quickly, it definitely speeds up the drying process. 

I've been loving some classics the past few months. My Urban Decay Naked 2 always gets a lot of love, it's my favourite palette and I've been going back to it quite a lot. The Natural Collection blush in Peach Melba is another favourite, such a lovely colour, it looks really natural. For foundation I've been enjoying something a bit higher coverage and this L'Oreal Infallible Matte foundation is a good coverage but not to heavy.

Contouring has been something I've dabbled in a bit more this Winter, and the Real Techniques Duo Fibre Cheek Brush from the Nic's Picks set is a perfect brush for contouring, it fits perfectly under my cheek bone but isn't so dense that I get a obvious line. I recently ran out of a lot of my nice perfumes and rather than spending a fortune replacing them I decided to try a more affordable option. This Little Red Dress perfume from Avon was on offer when I was flicking through the catalogue so I decided to order, and I'm really impressed, it smells lovely and lasts really well on me. 

I didn't realise how long I'd been using the Rimmel Wake Me Up mascara, but I actually mentioned it in my Summer favourites. Its a really nice everyday mascara, its lightweight and doesn't feel heavy on my lashes, but gives them a nice coating of colour, adds some length and volume and separates them. I wouldn't say its an amazing mascara but its perfect for my 5:30am starts! 

Finally, a product I only picked up a few weeks ago, is the Essence lipstick in 04. I love this formula, and I've mentioned a different shade in a previous favourites, it's really great and for such a great price. This colour is a beautiful red, but its not too intense so can be worn a bit more easily. I really love it and will definitely continue wearing it throughout the year. 

I'd love to know what products you've been loving the past few months, or if you've got any you think would be perfect for Spring. Not that I need to buy any more beauty items!  

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Blogger Beauty Box: February

Beauty subscription boxes have been everywhere the past year or so, and I've debated ordering them before but I'm always a bit hesitant due to the price and the risk of getting things I'll just never use. The Blogger Beauty Box stood out to me though, and I knew I had to give it a try. 

Created by the amazing Vix Meldrew the Blogger Beauty Box is still in it's early days, but it's definitely going to take off. So many bloggers rave about it, and at only £10 for a box, (that's including P&P!) you're really getting a great deal. It's also really nice to support a friend and fellow blogger and see her business grow. 

I've ordered a box before and although I didn't blog about it I was really impressed so I decided to put in an order for the February box.

The box came packed with goodies, mostly from brands new to me which is always a nice way to be introduced to something. First up is the Madame La La Tan West Coast Face Bronzing Serum which retails for £25. Infused with Coco Water and Green Tea this bronzing serum claims to lift and brighten while giving your face an 'LA-worthy glow'. This product will get more use in Summer, but for now I'm embracing my pale white skin for as long as I can. 

Next up is the DHC Mineral Mask at £29. This is a pore-purifying mud mask, it contains clay which is a great product for drawing out impurities. As someone with oily, spot-prone skin I usually look for clay masks so I have high hopes for this product. Another full size product in this months box is the Merumaya Bi-Phase Plus Eye Make-Up Remover for £14.50. This claims to 'combine the effectiveness of a bi-phase with the gentleness of a cream/gel', I'm excited to give this a go and see how well it removes my makeup.

I'm not the biggest wearer of fake lashes, mostly because I just can't do it, but I'll be giving these Be-Bop Lashes from Threads (£9) a go, and hopefully not looking like an idiot! This Lip Treat by Puriskin is a really nice moisturising treatment, I received the clear one which will be nice for everyday where when my lips need a bit of TLC. At £16.99 I'm expecting some pretty great things from it!

The last item in the box is two sample sized products from JR Naturorganics Mandarin & Chamomile range. This range is all vegan and cruelty free as well as free from a bunch of different things. I received the Gentle Cleansing Milk and the Hydrating Mist. I think these will be good on days when my skin is playing up and needs something gentle to help calm it down. 

Overall I'm really impressed with this months box, I can't believe the products in this box come to almost £100, it's such a bargain! I'd really recommend checking out the Blogger Beauty Box and ordering yourself a box if you're interested in trying new beauty products, and supporting an amazing and lovely blogger along the way. 

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23 While I'm 23

Today is my 23rd birthday!! To celebrate I thought I'd set myself some goals for the next year, because I really like goals, I find they motivate me to get stuff done. So here are some of the things I really want to get done in the next 365 days. They range from goals I can complete in one day, to things that are open ended, or that might involve a little bit more planning and thought. 

1. See more of the world. 

2. Spend more time with my grandparents. 

3. Take a social media break. 
4. Start to love my body.
5. Visit 5 cities in the UK I've never been to before. 
6. Exercise regularly.
7. Fill my time more productively. 
8. Write.
9. Love reading again.
10. Buy a new car. 
11. Feel like a real adult. 
13. Explore the countryside. 
14. Cook more and try new recipes. 
15. Go on a road trip.
16. Do something to work toward the career I want.
17. Feel totally beautiful for a day. 
18. Start saving money.
19. Get a massage. 
20. Make the effort to see friends in different places. 
21. Write in my Line a Day Diary every day. 
22. Do something that scares me once a month. 
23. Go to see a play/musical I've never seen before. 

You can find me in all of these places:

If you enjoyed this post you might like to check out 15 Goals for 2015 // Why I'm Happy Today // Life is a Lesson Learnt: 2015

23rd Birthday Wishlist

Mulberry Bayswater Double Zip Tote - £1,500
Jo Malone Wood Sage & Sea Salt - £85
Alphabet Bags Wash Bag - £24
The Lion King on West End
Nars The Modern Minimalist Collection - £60
Olivia Burton Bee Watch - £135
Marc Jacobs Daisy Dream Perfume - £44

On Monday 22nd of Feb I will be turning 23, an age I am actually totally ok with being. I currently don't have any plans for my birthday, other than having the day off work to do whatever I want with. I haven't asked for anything for my birthday from anyone, nor do I really expect to get anything, but I do always love putting together wish lists of things I want, so even If I want to treat myself I can.

First on my wish list is definitely something I don't expect to ever receive on my birthday, but I can dream! Ever since I worked on the handbag section at John Lewis I've had a little bit of a thing for Mulberry bags, and this Bayswater Tote is a slight variation on the classic but is exactly my style of handbag. Although I'd probably be scared to ever use it if I did own it! 

Two perfumes made it onto my list; my all time favourite from Marc Jacobs, the Daisy Dream perfume is one I've recently finished and would love to have it replaced. Slightly more expensive is a Jo Malone cologne, before choosing a scent I would need to head to my local John Lewis and give them all a good smell, but I know I like the Wood Sage & Sea Salt scent. 

This wash bag from Alphabet Bags is one I've wanted since last years birthday, so I might have to treat myself to it. This watch from Olivia Burton is beautiful and I struggled to narrow down my choice as they're all so lovely, but the Bumblebee won me over on this one. I've never tried anything from Nars so this beauty box would be a great way to sample some of their products, the foundation included sounds perfect for me and I'd love to finally try the Orgasm blush! 

Finally, and what would probably be the best birthday present would be to be taken to see The Lion King on the West End. Lion King is my favourite film, and I've seen the stage version twice before and it is beyond amazing. If you know me well you'll know why it means so much to me, but I even have a tattoo of lyrics from one of the songs. So it means a lot to me, and I would LOVE to go and see it again. 

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If you enjoyed this post you might like to check out 22nd Birthday Wishlist // Photo Every Hour: Birthday Edition // Birthday Meal at Calcutta Brasserie  

8 Things Tinder Has Taught Me

Having your heart broken sucks. There is no two ways about that, but there is one sure way to make you feel a little bit less shit, some of the time at least. Getting back out there and into the dating scene once again is both terrifying and liberating. It's by no means the perfect way to get over an ex partner, but it's a step in the right direction for a lot of people. 

As a twenty something I have no idea how to do 'traditional dating', I mean how does that even work, where do you meet people without the internet?! Tinder was my dating app of choice, of course. It's the most populated, it's easy to use, and you can skip through multiple men in just minutes narrowing down the 'hot damns' from the 'no thanks'. 

In the 6 months I've been single I've deleted and re-downloaded Tinder more times than is healthy. I've been stood up, catfished, insulted, complimented and had some pretty awkward conversations. After a few months of going a bit dating crazy, which is almost compulsory following a breakup, I've decided to pull back on dating, and Tinder has become more something I do when I'm bored than to actually look for dates. 

Despite taking a bit of a break from the dating world, I've definitely learnt some things over my past 6 months of tinder'ing. 

So here are 8 Things Tinder Has Taught Me: 

1. People aren't always who they say they are. 
For me this one is literal, people really aren't always who they say they are. I was catfished by someone pretending to be a drummer of a band I'd never heard of, and I only found out when a friend recognised the band photo and I was able to find the real drummer's twitter and message him. An interesting conversation, but it showed me the importance of confirming someone's identity before you meet them. Snapchat is the perfect tool for this!

2. It's not all about looks. 
The whole point of Tinder is that its based on looks and immediate attraction. Most people swipe based on the first photo, without even checking out their other photos or bio, if they even have one. Looks aren't everything though, some of the best conversations I've had were with guys I didn't immediately swipe right, and instead checked out their bio and maybe gave them a chance based on that. Also, some of the hottest guys I swiped were poor conversationalist, or just straight up twats. 

3. Attraction does matter. 
Although it's not all about looks, attraction does matter. Tinder has shown me the importance of being physically attracted to someone, and has shown me that everyone has different taste of what they're attracted to, and you can't blame someone for that. I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea, and that's ok, because someone out there will think I'm the best thing they've ever seen.

4. People want sex. 
It's true, people use Tinder for sex. To be honest there is nothing wrong with that, you've just got to be upfront with what you want. Whether it's an immediate, 'I'm just looking for fun' or something a bit more explicit. It's never going to be to everyone's taste, but better someone is up front than finding out a few weeks down the line, once they've got what they want and never speak to you again!

5. Don't trust too quickly. 
It's far too easy to lie on the internet, so keep your guard up. Whether it's someone pretending to be someone they're not, lying about their intentions, or being a cheating asshole. I've learnt not to put my trust in someone too quickly because they've not earned it yet. 

6. It's ok to enjoy the attention.
Tinder is the perfect place for when you just want a bit of a confidence boost. Who doesn't love to see a match pop up on their phone, or have someone tell you they think you're gorgeous. It's nice, and there is nothing wrong with enjoying that attention. 

7. People can be mean.
Although people can be nice and compliment you all day long, it's not the only type of attention you're likely to get on Tinder. Whether it's someone's 'friend' telling you your eyebrows are crap, or some misogynistic douchebag who get's upset when you tell him you're not interested, and calls you fat and ugly. People can be mean, so you've got to have a thick skin to keep your confidence intact.

8. There are plenty more fish in the sea. 
For every rejection that made you want to crawl into bed and cry that no one would ever love you, theres someone messaging you telling you they think you're amazing. The beauty of Tinder, internet dating, or life in general, is there is always more people out there, and within a few swipes you will have forgotten that asshole, and moved onto someone new, and the whole thing starts again!

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If you enjoyed this post you might like to check out Life Lately: Moving On // Let's Get Personal: Where Has It Gone? // Life is a Lesson Learnt: 2015