Your body is your body. No matter your size, shape, height, race or ability it's all yours, and it's going to be the body you have for the rest of your life. Sure you can change certain aspects, you can loose and gain weight, you can emphasis certain aspects, cover others up, but at the end of the day its the same body you're standing in every day.
So shouldn't we be embracing our bodies? Loving them because they do pretty amazing things, they give life, they run marathons, save lives, educate, empower and bring joy and comfort. Yet it seems like we're never happy with them.
"My body isn’t exactly how I’d like it to look, but what I love most about it is that it is MY body! No one else looks like me, my body is totally unique to me and that is why I love it. I do also love my bum!
Everyone should love themselves and embrace their body because it’s uniquely theirs and that’s what makes it beautiful. You don’t have to be happy with every inch of your body to love yourself, you just have to treat yourself well and always be kind. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend then you shouldn’t say it to yourself!”
I'm a big body positivity advocate. I truly honestly believe every body is beautiful, I think happiness and confidence make the world of difference, and I think loving yourself is the key to being happy and confident in your body.
The only problem is, I don't listen to myself. I can talk about body positivity and loving yourself until the cows come home, and I really believe it's important and I think everyone is gorgeous and beautiful and sexy in the body they're in right now. Except myself.
I'm not going to sit here and say all this stuff without being honest with you. I don't believe it when its about my own body. No matter how much I try, I can't love my body, I can't look in the mirror and feel anything other than disgust.
I know its wrong. I'd hate for my friends, or anyone, to feel about their bodies the way I do about mine. The strong confident adult woman inside me who knows my body does not define me, and wants to be happy and love myself no matter my size.
I knows a large body can be sexy and beautiful because I see other plus size women and think all of them are sexy and beautiful, but I can't seem to translate that into seeing myself as sexy and beautiful.
How do you change the thoughts of a lifetime? How do I not hate my body when I've been ashamed of it since I was less than 10 years old? How do I tell myself that my body is beautiful at any size, that its beautiful because of everything it has been through, because of all it will give me in years to come, because a 'thin' body isn't the only body that can be seen as sexy?
This probably isn't the body positivity post you expected, but its important for me to be honest, to show you that actually I'm struggling too. No matter how much I tell people they're gorgeous exactly as they are, I can't say it to myself.
I want this to change, I want to be able to look in a mirror and accept that some areas of my body aren't exactly how I want them, but that does not stop me from being a beautiful sexy amazing person exactly as I am, perceived flaws and all.
I just don't know how to do that. I don't know how to love myself, but I want to learn.
If you enjoyed this post you might like to check out I Should Love My Body // My Weight & Me: Part 2 // The Self Love Tag
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