I have casual sex, and it's none of your business

My name is Emma, and I have casual sex.

Yep, I'm one of those people. I'm sure you know the ones, maybe you're one too, or maybe you're friends with one. I'm talking about the people who are comfortable having sex without an emotional connection, and usually - shock horror - they really enjoy it.

Over the past 5 years my sex life has gone from dry (quite literally) to amazing. From the days of drunken fumblings in my uni single bed, to making love, to one night stands. I've covered the basics, I've had my share of exploring, and I don't regret one moment.

Not everyone enjoys casual sex. For some people sex is all about the emotional connection and the love you share with a partner, and that's cool. Sex is amazing, and yeah perhaps it is best when it's with someone you care about and have a strong emotional connection with.

But, and for me this is a pretty big but, it doesn't have to be that. For me sex is lots of things, and it depends on who it's with to what it means. It could be a sign of love, or it could be a bit of fun with a friend, or maybe its a passion filled experience with a complete stranger.

As a single 20 something with a high sex drive I find casual sex can be pretty damn amazing. Whether it's a fuck buddy who you're able to have a reasonably consistent fuck schedule with, or a one night stand with a guy who will forever be remembered by a nickname you've given him, because hey, it's not always easy to remember names.

For me causal sex is about satisfying a craving. It's about knowing what I enjoy, and I enjoy the purely physical aspects of sex, and that is something I can get from a casual encounter.

9 times out of 10 I come away from an experience of casual sex feeling great. I've had a good time, the other person has had a good time too, and I got to satisfy my craving. Yes there are those 1 in 10 occasions where I might not have enjoyed myself as much as I could have, or occasions where afterwards I've felt a bit like the experience was lacking. But do those meh moments make me want to swear of casual sex forever? Hell no!

Casual sex is awesome. Without it I'd have gone months, even years, without sex, and that's not something I want to do. Why would I? Sex is so much fun, and orgasms are, for me, a necessary part of life.

Casual sex works for me, despite others thinking I shouldn't do it, that I 'deserve better', or that I don't value myself, I don't care, because I know for me casual sex isn't devaluing or shameful. It's not something I do because I'm craving love or attention, it's something I do because I want to have sex, and there is nothing wrong with that.

So, you may not be a fan of casual sex, but let's make something clear, that does not give you the right to judge me. My sex life has nothing to do with you, and it also doesn't change who I am as a person.

I have casual sex, but I am still a kind, loving, caring person. I enjoy casual sex, but I'm still worthy of respect. I have sex without an emotional connection, but that doesn't make me a bad person.

I refuse to be ashamed of my sex life, because it's just that - mine.

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